Most of men and women who are married show signs of better general health than
those who are not married, or are widowed or divorced. This can be due to a number
of reasons, such as regularly having Sex which is an important part of any relationship.
Relationships continue to develop in stages, even after the honeymoon is over. Most of us
are familiar only with the early stages: meeting, dating, courtship and commitment. we forget
that both love and sex are like the roots that feed the tree.
Sexless marriage is a complaint that the sexologists get often from clients.
I think relationships can improve if people listen to each other more instead of telling
each other what’s wrong. Rather than complaining about what your partner doesn’t do, tell
him or her exactly what they can do to turn you on. When you talk about sex, focus on the positive.
Here are some suggestions that will help you create different experiences together:
** When one of you is sad or stressed, the other is especially caring and soothing, doing all your
favorite things to comfort and relax you.
** when you have no obligations, and can laze around, have breakfast in bed, and
make love for as long as you want; no pressure, no hurry and no demands on each other.
** Recreate a scene from your dating days, as closely as possible — the time
you met at church and couldn’t wait to get home and make love, the flowers you used
to bring home as a surprise, or saying all the silly, wildly in-love things you said then.
** There are ways you have sex when you don’t really have time for a full, leisurely romantic
evening: One of you giving oral sex before you leave for work, petting to climax in the car at a drive-in movie, using
vibrators to have orgasms without a lot of foreplay late at night, taking a nap and having a “quickie” before
rushing off to a party.
** After you’ve had an argument or a struggle, and forgiven each other, lovemaking
can be extra tender and memorable.
** Romantic Sex: This is the full-blown variety: candlelight, dinner, quiet talking, dressing up, perhaps
a lovely hotel room, or a romantic dinner for two when you have time alone at home. Especially good for
anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, or anytime your relationship needs a boost.
** Reassuring Sex: This is affection and intimacy intended to reassure a partner who is temporarily
insecure, or designed to reaffirm your mutual love and commitment to each other. It is often accompanied
by many verbal declarations of love and explaining again why you are so important to each other.